Self Confidence Makes You a Great Lover!
Love is a beautiful emotion, a gift of
God, given to a chosen few. Not everybody get lots of love in his or her
lifetime. However, many times lovers mess it up by not able to meet each other’s
expectations by growing too possessive, by becoming overtly shy, by becoming
unnecessarily skeptical and what not!
Most of the time, the culprit is within
ourselves making us see things much bigger and magnified than they actually are
and makes us overreact to events that could have been easily avoided. It is much
easier to lose than to build something – especially when it comes to the
matters of the heart. An ignorant and careless person is vulnerable to losing a
lot, including his or her life partner as well. This article tells you some
simple things that you can remember to help keep you from hurting your partner
and keep your love life blossoming. Here
are some habits of self-confident lovers.
Self-confident lovers are not jealous
If you are jealous of your partner, this
is a sure indication that the foundations of love are not deep enough to
withstand the wear and tear of time. Self confident lovers consider their
partners as an extension of their own selves and feel happy if somebody has
something good to say about their partners. There is no “yours” or “mine” in
their relationship. It’s always “ours,” which forms the basis of their love. Most
people get embarrassed or skeptical, or annoyed when someone makes a remark
that “Your girl is so beautiful” or “Don’t you think your boyfriend has a talent
of impressing girls around.” However, a confident man would say, “Yes. I know
she is so beautiful and we are proud to be in love,” while a self-confident
girl will shoot back – “Yes. He impressed me too!” Remember that your individual
qualities now are a combined “quality pool” belonging to you both, and both
partners must treat is as an asset. This is only possible when both of you are
confident of each other’s love and commitment.
Self-confident lovers are more
forgiving
Since self-confident people can maintain
a cool and calm composure in the times of crisis, they are better at analyzing
situations and are able to put themselves in their partner’s shoes. This way,
they get their partner’s viewpoint and understand their behavior. In many
instances, it happens that certain behavior of our partner annoys us or makes
us skeptical. Lack of self-confidence can also make us think negatively.
However, self-confident lovers believe in the policy of “forgive and forget”
and can move on.
Self-confident lovers make their
partner more secure and comfortable
In a relationship, looks do matter, but
then the characteristics that matter even more are a sensible and rational
nature, sense of humor, ability to handle tough situations and more.
Self-confident lovers are the best places to look for these attributes. Their
self confidence is contagious and they are promising professionals as well.
They enjoy respect and camaraderie, and nurture positive and constructive
thoughts. They seem to have the ability to push away problems and provide for
their family. In this world where genuine love seems to be an urgent need to
calm humanity, a self-confident lover makes us feel secure, comfortable and
this life seems worth living for!
Self-confident lovers give their
partner a great gift – the gift of independence!
Sometimes love rather than liberate us,
actually binds us. So much so that a possessive partner would like to have all the
details of our lives. Who are the people you work with? Who was that “Daniel”
who gave you a call at 7 in the morning? Why do you want to have your personal
car? Why do you have to wear makeup every time you go out? Why are you wearing
this dress at this hour…and so on! Love, which was once the most beautiful
emotion in our lives, which seemed to fill us with hope and enthusiasm, now
seems to drain out all the energy from us. You feel as if you are bound to
someone, answerable to someone and tethered to the wall with limited mobility.
Love does not seem much more than slavery. Self-confident lovers realize the
importance of independence. They let their partner fly and soar great heights,
because they know that at the end of the day, it is to their arms their partner
will return!
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